When is it Time to End the Relationship?
"There is a time for departure even when there's no certain place to go."
~Tennessee Williams
Sometimes a relationship becomes so difficult that partners begin to question whether it is worth trying to save...
Living the Life We Have
"So many of us grown-ups suffer because we are trying to live the life we once had or the life we wish for."
~ Daniel Gottlieb
It is true that we often hear ourselves or others...
Relieving Stress Through Non-Attachment
"The Great Way is not difficult for those who have no preferences." ~ Hsin Hsin Ming
Think of how often we experience stress or anxiety about something that "might" happen. We worry that we will...
Eliminating “Psychological Viruses”
Like everyone else I have been thinking a lot about viruses. A virus gets into the body and then gets the body itself to produce more of the virus. This compromises the health of...
Positive Side of The Pandemic
A pandemic is a horrible thing. It is frightening and dangerous. The whole world suddenly became vulnerable, and the world was not prepared. We have all been affected and feel compassion for all who...
COVID-19. What Now?
A reader asked if I could write something about how to move gently back into the world without feeling anxious, after all the changes brought by COVID-19.
This is an excellent question. We, and our...
Writing Down Your Anger
I often suggest to my clients that whenever they feel extremely angry or upset, that they sit down and write about what's bothering them before taking any action. There are some very good reasons...
The Gift of Silence
When was the last time you gave yourself the gift of silence? No radio or television, no traffic noise, no talking, just total quiet. This may be easier to accomplish if you live out...
Ask Gwen: High Conflict Divorce & Children
Question: I’m having a tough time with my 3 teenage children (13,13,14). I’m going through a high conflict divorce. My ex is badmouthing me and trying to alienate the kids from me. My kids...
Ask Gwen: Mother Improving Relationship with Adult Daughter
Question: How can I improve my relationship with my 33 year old daughter? Our relationship is stranded and when I try to help, by asking questions or advise or give suggestions, I get shut...