Adult Children Living at Home
Increasingly, young adults are still living at home longer than in the past. This creates some dilemmas both for the parents and the adult child. Often boundaries become muddled, because there is still a...
Don’t Bad Mouth the Ex to the Kids
With something like forty percent of marriages ending in divorce, there are many children who spend time separately with Mom and Dad. It should go without saying that parents should not make disparaging remarks...
Divorce: What About the Children?
When couples come for marital counselling, it is always my goal to do everything in my power to assist the couple not only to save their marriage, but to make it better than it...
Divorce: Don’t Put Children in the Middle
“Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.” ~ Max Lucade
It is hard enough for children to deal with their parent's divorce without being drawn into the adult issues. This can happen when parents fight...
Children in Blended Families
When we acknowledge a child’s feelings, we do him a great service. We put him in touch with his inner reality. And once he’s clear about that reality, he gathers the strength to begin...
Accommodating the Child with Stepparents
It is a challenging business these days for teachers to stay on top of each and every child's home situation. Gone are the days when an educator could simply assume every child lived in...
Honoring the Student
I work with many school students of all ages. So many of them are very bright and articulate. Often they have parents who encourage communication, independent thinking , and discussion when there are differences....
When Parenting Styles Differ
"No matter how calmly you try to referee, parenting will eventually produce bizarre behavior, and I'm not talking about the kids. Their behavior is always normal."
Parenting can be challenging at the best of times,...
What Parents Should Consider for Bright Kids
A question that comes up often amongst parents relates to children who are very bright. Some youngsters begin to read at three or four years old, and are quite proficient by the time they...
The Unmotivated Child
Sometimes children just do not seem to care about the things we feel are important. Often they are described as “lazy”, taking everything for granted, and perhaps having no desire to do well in...